Saturday night , four in the morning, a few too many glasses of gin and tonic. And the lethal weapon in hand:your phone . You haven't seen help yourself. TheSaturday Night Fever completely took over you. And your feeling of loneliness decided for you. And thirst for sex , too. Because yes, we too, sometimes, our sexual desires dictate to us. Yet your buddy told you not to. It only took a second of her back turned for you to press “send” . And There you go. The booty call to your ex was on. Without you necessarily expecting an answer, by the way. It is always in these vague moments, those in which our impulsiveness was stronger than anything, that we know that our chance of responding is close to 0 . And that's when you know that the road to find your bed is going to be long, very long , that you feel your phone vibrate in your pocket . Your ex wants to see you, too. No more turning back, possible. Change of plan:you go to his house. And you tell yourself that luckily you're tipsy.
The damage is done. And the next day, you blame yourself, you tell your best friends how much you regret and they keep telling you that sleeping with his ex is never a good idea. You acquired. Without really knowing why, because, in the end, it's a bit of a legend that having sex with your ex is definitely not to be done. Worse, a real fantasy reigns around the ex. Untouchable. To go back to sleep with him would be to swallow his vomit, fall back into his old ways or even affirm that we have not turned the page . What if, in the end, it was quite the opposite ? If sleeping with your ex had beneficial effects on the rest of our life as a couple, on our relationship to sexuality and especially on our feelings ? You do not believe in it ? However, this is what an American study seems to explain . Indeed, the team of researchers, led by Stephanie Spielmann, from Wayne State University tried to understand the impact of sexual relations between ex and so if they were barriers to post-breakup healing.
And drum roll…it turns out to be beneficial to get back together with his ex. The researchers called on 500 volunteers , who answered a series of questions about their feelings , For many months. On the majority of participants surveyed , most say they had no trouble turning the page. And for those who gave in to a sex drive with their former spouse, it turns out they had even less trouble moving forward. And this, in the short or long term . But that's not all. Sleep again with your ex would have benefits on his sex life . Since we know the person with whom we indulge in a part of legs in the air, it is easier for us to let go . Logic. And therefore, to gain confidence for other sexual relations . Also, this act allows us to put an end to it. Once and for all. Yes, generally, we don't leave with the irresistible urge to return later. A last one with a man who is no longer ours, it's never insane, let it be said.
In conclusion, there is no right or wrong answer. You know each other. It is up to you to know if at a T moment , you are detached enough to indulge in coitus post-breakup. No matter what your best friends say, you are the only one whether you have the shoulders or not. If you only see an exchange of good practices and you know you won't fall in love with the person again, so go for it. If not, then yes, we do not recommend it. But, again, the decision is yours.
PS:choose an ex with whom it was good in bed (the risk is worth it).
