Haha, still looking for it. Why are women so difficult? Google indicates that an answer to this question is sought every month. And coincidentally, Yvonne wrote a blog about this.
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Are 'we' women really that difficult? It's Valentine's Day. I call Husband and suggest we eat mussels together – which I then prepare myself. Doesn't mean anything but always good. Clean the mussels and put them in the pan, add vegetables and wine and hoppa on the fire. Decorate the table nicely and light the candles. Like this. Let the romance begin. The door swings open and Husband rushes into the kitchen. He has brought flowers and is very early for his work. I smile and say, "Flowers? You must have picked it up quickly at Albert Heijn?'
Husband looks at his bunch of flowers with a crestfallen face, puts it away on the counter and walks into the living room. oops. What a sucker I am. Of course I didn't mean it that way at all. But why am I saying this?
I walk over to Husband and grab him by the arm. Reluctantly, he turns around. I look at him guilty:'Sorry...'
I realize that it won't get well soon either.
Women, you never know what they want – they often say. We all know that men and women are different. That's not news. Men are more often focused on themselves, while women want to focus on others:the children, their relationship, social contacts.
A friend of mine called this week and complained that her husband is away from home too much. He goes to tennis one evening a week, has a business meeting with dinner the next evening and every Friday it is billiards night with his friends (when else do I see them?) and now he has also planned a sauna visit - nice and quiet in on his own.
My girlfriend was about to explode. I couldn't blame her and the question why women are so difficult does not occur to me. In addition, I often measure it against my own situation. Husband is working a lot and when he comes home it is not to peel the potatoes. Women often sacrifice themselves too much for their family and then there comes a moment of dissatisfaction… Sometimes it all gets too much for me and I only long for one thing:understanding!
Unfortunately, I often bring that up in an unfortunate way.
Men leave the ship easier † They have less trouble letting things go. Two weeks on a business trip? He's already packed his suitcase. If I'm away from home for three nights, I already think I'm a bad mother. Besides, I have to arrange everything before I can leave. I need two weeks for that alone!
Well, maybe we should instruct our men in a simple and unmistakable way. No flowers? No sex. (Wait wait, I'll be selling myself short too 😉 )
You understand that this is of course craziness. I should not generalize, there are also men who are very attentive and remain. Look at my Husband and his bunch of Albert flowers.
In general, men are more likely to resign themselves to a situation.
The first weeks of a relationship, a man is usually very attentive. He does his best because there is still something to hunt. But once that honeymoon is over, there is often only one option for him:accept that he will never know what his wife wants unless she whispers it to him.
While we women always want to perfect everything and maintain control, a man thinks simpler. Do I have my phone and money? Then it'll be fine. Is my wife at home? He will take care of it all.
Why are women so difficult? Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. What's difficult about that?
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Ievy
