Getting your child out of the house:it's still Googled! It's not really recognizable to me. I couldn't wait to fly out of the nest. If I had to live at home until I was thirty, my first room of my own would probably have become one in an institution.
No, I didn't need a push. I didn't fly out, I was more of a fighter jet 😉 . While I love my parents! But apparently some children are so fond of their mother's nest that they refuse to leave it. And that was not the intention.
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You bring them into the world. Feed them, clothe them and protect them. You're trying to make them wiser. And finally the time has come:they leave the nest. Or not. In nature, chicks only fledge too early. Never too late. But with humans it is a little different. In some families it really comes to that:kicking your child out because they are 30 and refuses to leave.
You may have already read something about it. In New York, parents are suing their son for refusing to leave the parental home. My son is now 30 but is still having a great time in the parental nest. Of course, filing a lawsuit is nice and American and over the top … But it does make you think. How does that actually work in the Netherlands?
In Italy they are really not weird about a man of 30 who still lives with his parents. But what about in the Netherlands? Research shows that kids in our country are also staying at home longer than before. Not because they don't want to fly out. But simply because it is becoming increasingly difficult for young people to pay. Rents are rising, as are study costs. Scholarships have become loans. And parents also have less to spend on average. As a result, they live at home longer.
The average age at which young people leave their parental home rose from 23.6 years to 24.6 years between 2006 and 2016. And the cost of living has only increased since then. It is therefore not easy for them to start their own 'nest'.
The figures show that children are staying at home longer. But what if your child is over 25? And graduated? Do you think evicting your child is an option? We are very curious about your mom's opinion. As always.
Filing a lawsuit goes a long way, of course. But my mother-in-law, when my boyfriend turned 24, started looking for an apartment for my boyfriend. And she liked it. As mothers can always find everything 😉 . How are you in that? Can they stay at home as long as possible? Or, in your opinion, do they really have to leave the house? And in the worst case scenario, would you evict your child from the house? With measures taken, of course.
