Our 4 witnesses
Fabien, 32 years old, single
Clément, 30 years old, in a relationship
Quentin, 31, single
Olivier, 35, married
Fabian. She is a stable girl, whom I can trust and with whom I can project myself. Someone who is not going to change his mind like a shirt on everything! Not a fickle-barge who says "I love you" one evening and is quite ready to dump her boyfriend the next day.
Clement. Reliable and responsible, a girl who knows what she wants and does what she says! What a modern woman, who isn't going to leave me all the headaches to do, like the administrative papers or the car to take to the garage, under the pretext that I'm the guy. I do my housework well!
Quentin. A girl who has solid values, such as kindness, honesty, listening and generosity. It may be old fashioned said like that, but in the couple, it is the basis. And the same for men!
Olivier. My wife ! (laughs) Someone who tells me things, even if it doesn't make me happy! We can't agree 100%, but at least we're talking and moving forward.
Fabian. Yes, of course, and especially at each major stage of the relationship, such as the moment when we introduce ourselves to our respective families or the moment when we may want to get married or have children... How stressful, we need even more to be sure to have the same vision of our couple.
Clement. I do not need to be reassured, insofar as I do not expect my girlfriend to pamper me. What I want is just to see through the acts that I have chosen well the one that makes my heart beat and with whom I see myself building, in short.
Quentin. Sure ! Offering someone a place in their privacy is no small thing! Even after years of relationship, we need to see that the person deserves it and takes care of it. As they say, love is maintained.
Olivier. But of course ! Under our "good man" airs, we also freak out, and maybe more than you, by the way! It is sometimes difficult to get the worms out of our noses, but we need it! And so much the better because you know how to do that.
Fabian. Yes and, precisely, if she has personal projects and passions, it enriches the couple and it's even more fun! As long as she doesn't see other men, it's perfect (laughs)!
Clement. It MUST go together! Being in a relationship does not mean being glued to each other's coattails or having zero personal life! Quite the contrary! A woman, like a man, must know how to fend for herself to be able to build a life together (which is not easy).
Quentin. It is even this cocktail that makes love so beautiful! Knowing that you can trust your girlfriend, walking with her while seeing her flourish in the couple and in her personal life, in her projects... that's great.
Olivier. Oh yeah ! Otherwise, hello asphyxiation, huh! Besides, I am my partner's husband, not her father! So she must have her life on her side, in addition to that of the couple. I won't always be there for her! And then, it's neither my role nor to help him.
Fabian. Yes of course ! Even if unstable girls (like the ones played by Eva Green) are very, very exciting… Surely because we tell ourselves that in bed they have to let go completely and surprise… But, in reality, we prefer “reassuring” girls “, with whom we are more confident on the sex side. We won't dare to do anything we want with them... Which is even better!
Clement. Sexy is not what is important (even if it is very pleasant), but “attractive”, yes! For men, very visual, "attractive" and "reliable", it's the magic combo for a life as a couple.
Quentin. Not always easy to find but yes. The problem is that the sexiest girls I've met played quite a bit on it, unfortunately...
Olivier. Absolutely ! Even though I've been married to my wife for almost ten years, I know her almost by heart, but I still find her so reassuring AND sexy!
Fabian. Yes ! When I love, I invest myself and I make compromises for my girlfriend, in the interest of both of us. If that's "reassuring" for you, I'm your man! (laughs)
Clement. I've never asked myself the question... But since I do everything I ask of others, I'd say yes!
Quentin. I try. But it's hard to be reassuring when you've come across "unreassuring" girls who broke our hearts... Before being reassuring, I first need to be reassured.
Olivier. Not all the time, but overall, yes! I can be "not reassuring" sometimes because I have faults, like everyone else. But I think I have the "basics" that allow my wife to feel confident.
