Like the feeling of finding myself again, like more than 10 years ago, lost in a new environment.
Yet this time, I had anticipated:I had been warned a little!
And yet so...
Almost 4 years ago, our daughter, so serious in class, was going to go to college, a very good one more, thanks to her grades. The famous 6th where the urban legend tells you that "everything changes you'll see it's crazy ". Besides, I had already felt the wind turn slightly at the end of CM2... it's because I have a good nose, friends.
And so wham. In effect. Shock. Misunderstanding. The inability to figure out how to react. All the soft, hard methods went through it (I'm not talking about drugs, huh, but the idea could have crossed our minds as it was sometimes difficult)… our entire family life was turned upside down .
It lasted 3 years, for a little year, things are getting better slowly but surely. She grows, matures and then… we too have made our way. Wallowing miserably often, winning a few small victories so motivating at times. I now have the necessary perspective to look back.
I felt helpless , maybe wrongly, maybe I didn't want to see anything or I just didn't have the strength to really look? But reading you, dear mother readers, here, on social networks, on this private/secret Facebook group where we have been talking freely without taboos for several months, I have the strong impression that I have a fine nose again. Something is missing .
Just like when I became a mother 15 years ago, I couldn't find anything on the difficulties encountered, the somewhat dark, even very painful sides of motherhood and therefore this time of adolescence. At that time, no Florence Foresti and "Mother Fucker to relieve guilt, to share these not very politically correct impulses aiming, however quite simply, to find themselves, woman, alone, or in love, to rebuild themselves physically, psychologically (sleep too) after the birth of their baby (however adorable it).
So, of course, these few complicated years (and I know it's not over), have not made me the Master of Adolescence. Far from it and that is clearly not what I am trying to tell you. On the contrary. I even understood with hindsight that I had been lucky, the teenager turned out to be very painful (the word is weak) but did not go completely into a spin, she did not not endangered for example (presumably "thanks" to the fact that she started her rebellion early).
However, I learned a lot . On her, on me, on adolescence in a functional way. I read, met many experts and thanks to this experience, I learned some tips, some mantras that I want to share more widely.
Because once again, the basis for me is to break taboos. All families go through this phase. We need to talk about it and let go. If only to feel listened to, understood, will make the mother a stronger, richer woman to get through the period, to stay the course (and the morale)
With my friend Célia, psy-coach, with whom I have shared great moments for almost 10 years (our monthly lunches), we have thought about it. She is a mother of two pre-teen/teen daughters. But also, she has this very interesting psychic vision which completes my profile. We decided to set up a Podcast project , very fashionable and very practical support. The idea is to regularly offer conversations on themes around adolescence .
Without taboo. With a huge dose of kindness. Our experiences. His ability to explain what is actually going on in the brains of our teenagers (I'm not telling you...). My humor (in real life it is also very funny eh). We mix and it would give a podcast called orio
Yippee, I have a teenager !
Imagine that by a happy coincidence, Ground Control is organizing a competition to help Podcast projects get started. So we participate in it. It's here. If you find the idea rather bueno , we would not be against your support. To vote, you must select our project in the category "to take action ". You can also hear our sweet voices!
Look forward to your reactions. Thank you to those who have already voted following my Instagram and Facebook posts.
