When you are jealous, how do you react? Do you avoid talking to your man about it while looking for lice to provoke an argument? Classic! Instead, acknowledge that it's jealousy that gets on your nerves. Putting a name to this emotion will help you channel it, the idea being that we manage better the things we understand (well, we hope). If it can do you good, list all the proofs of love he gives you on a daily basis.
Well, okay, you caught him in the middle of a flirting session with a girl who looks suspiciously like his ex… But the one who has never twisted her lock of hair in front of a man other than hers throws us the first rock ! We all try to please, even without knowing it. Are these three short minutes of (innocent) flirting enough to put your love in danger? NO ! So there is no reason to have an anxiety attack in the middle of the evening. We calm down, and we breathe through the belly.
Okay, you're jealous, but that's no reason to make a scene for him every time he has the misfortune to look at another woman! After all, he was just watching. So that doesn't count. Surely you don't need him to reassure you like a child with every outburst of jealousy! To trust him, you must first trust yourself.
Your previous experiences (most likely) have nothing to do with your current relationship. And then, each couple is unique. Bringing back the emotions experienced in your previous relationships will only make things worse. Don't let jealousy poison your life. By constantly putting it to the test to test it, you risk pushing it towards the exit.
Overwhelmed by jealousy, do you want to blame him (again)? He forgot to call you back, and your fertile imagination took care of the rest? Stop! Base yourself only on facts, not on the scenarios you have built up! It's the only way to put the rational into an irrational emotion.
When jealousy becomes unhealthy, it literally eats up all your energy, you have to take charge by turning to a professional. There is often only a fine line between jealousy and paranoia, and the consequences in love are terrible.
