" Make love Not War ! “:it is a bit of the motto of the bonobos, we learn from an article published on Sunday in the American magazine Wired . Researchers at Emory University, Georgia (USA), Zanna Clay and Frans de Waal have noticed that these primates use sex to better manage stressful situations.
So we wondered how we could apply the lessons of our friends the monkeys. And we found. Here is how to adapt the "bonobo philosophy" in our relationship
What bonobos do:"Rather than escalating conflict, bonobos use sex to eliminate tension and restore peace," say researchers
How to apply it:Big argument with your man? Stop arguing, you will spend psychological energy for nothing and risk saying things that are beyond your thought. Instead, make up on the pillow. It will be more efficient and much more fun.
What bonobos do:Another reason researchers have cited is… “mediating food-related conflicts”…
How to apply it:Arrived in front of your house, you realize that you forgot the bread as your man had asked you? Jump on him as soon as you come face to face with him. That way he will forget.
What the bonobos do:“The bonobos also have sex, too, to bond with each other. »
How to apply it:Have you recently moved away, with your spouse? Bonobos would tell you to have sex more often, a good step to get closer quickly. And they are right.
What bonobos do:"Bonobos also use sex to console those who are victims of conflict, through contact at the level of the genitals with their hands or with their feet, or by copulating", continue the scientists.
How to apply it:Does your man feel sad? Give him your foot, caress him and make love to him. He will feel much better. And if he is the one who jumps on you with passion when you are depressed, do not reject him. Hormones will put you in a euphoric mood.
What bonobos do:“Masturbation is a very useful indicator to measure stress in bonobos. After a conflict, bonobos masturbate a lot among themselves, or alone, which suggests that masturbation helps them combat stress.
How to apply it:At the moment, are you overwhelmed and have your head under water? Do yourself good, the bonobos whisper to you. And besides, it's good for your health.
"Come on, a kiss!" »
