They say love is blind. Yes, it's often true (in fact, it even makes people a little stupid…). But if falling in love can blur the look, the reason and the feelings a little, the construction of love is done by vision. unobstructed.
1/ Love is something to decide. Passion and attraction, we do not choose it. But continue to stay with each other, because we have the desire and the motivation to build a nice story together, despite the difficulties, that is decided. Love is a common project. That of being happy together, as long as possible (which is not the case with passion, for example).
2/ We only truly love someone as a whole. Love isn't about hiding in the sand, seeing only what works and skipping the rest. Idealization leads directly to rupture! On the contrary, we must learn to see the other as he is and love him that way. And then, we too have plenty of faults, no (and fortunately we both have them, otherwise we would be bored!).
3/ In the event of a glitch:know how to analyze…and question yourself. To overcome the problems, settle the little hassles like the crises, we chat, we exchange, we confront the points of view, the versions, and in most cases, these problems are solved... and the couple strengthened!
4/ See what is good. Yes, why focus only on what is wrong? Couple therapists agree:we do not see enough of everything that is going well! This is also the principle of positive psychology, the science of happiness:strengthen our gaze to happiness! Long live gratitude!
5/ Boost torque. Time is a bit of the big villain of the relationship. Fortunately, resisting it is possible! For this, the couple must be maintained, a bit like our shoes, which we wax regularly so as not to damage them! And that's good, we have plenty of articles to help you!
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